By Blake Higginbotham
There are tons of books and expose’s being published in these hours that were written to help us explore and plummet the depths of the human psyche. Some of them possess keys to helping us understand what makes us who we are because of genetic predispositions, and others help us access the damage caused by our upbringing or environment. Whether you need to know and understand what makes you tic, or you need to take damage control in order to move on, it is my intent over the next few weeks to write to what I have experienced in life, and what I have come to understand about it.
That said, nothing that I can say, or that is written, will speak to all of the questions you should be asking, and they certainly will not contain all of the answers for which you seek. In some cases, you have to ask the right questions in order to arrive at the correct conclusion, in other cases you have to be able to deal in truth with your own heart in order to be made freer to cope with life as it comes. How you arrive at that conclusion will determine the details of your destiny, and you will discover that the best you can be is not enough in light of who you will become, as you embrace the reality of who you are in Him.
Now, I am not writing from a position of having a degree in psychology, nor do I embrace every theory out there; but I have learned a few things over the past 56 years. I hope to clearly communicate them with you in a way that will help you discover yourself in Him, and answer a great many of the questions that you may have concerning life in general.
Hebrews 2:1-10 Therefore we must give the more earnest heed to the things we have heard, lest we drift away. (In other words, we need to listen to someone who has walked it out before us)2For if the word spoken through angels proved steadfast, and every transgression and disobedience received a just reward,3how shall we escape if we neglect so great a salvation, (Every choice we make in life carries with it a good or bad consequence) which at the first began to be spoken by Yahshua, and was confirmed to us by those who heard Him, 4Yahweh also bearing witness both with signs and wonders, with various miracles, and gifts – (Merismos –a separation or distribution: dividing asunder, gift) of the Holy Spirit, according to His own will? 5For He has not put the world to come, of which we speak, in subjection to angels. 6But one testified in a certain place, saying: “What is man that You are mindful of him, or the son of man that You take care of him? (The answer to that question is; we are the expression of His person and His family in Earth, and we are a part of His divine will and purpose) 7You have made him a little lower than the angels; You have crowned him with glory and honor, and set him over the works of Your hands. (This speaks of Yahweh’s original intent) 8You have put all things in subjection under his feet.” For in that He put all in subjection under him, He left nothing that is not put under him. (Dominion is our destiny) But now we do not yet see all things put under him. 9But we see Yahshua,(The Pattern Son) who was made a little lower than the angels, for the suffering of death crowned with glory and honor, that He, by the grace of Yahweh, might taste death for everyone.(Some of you will not taste death, until you see the Kingdom or Yahweh coming in Power) (In Him, we live, move and have our being) 10For it was fitting for Him, for whom are all things and by whom are all things, in bringing many sons to glory, (This is Yahweh’s will and purpose) to make the captain of their salvation perfect through sufferings. (Yahshua was made perfect through sufferings and the sons will also drink of that cup)
If you can hear it, most of us are the product of our genetic predispositions and environments. A few of us have identified our family tendencies and personal traits and have developed our personalities and character beyond our upbringing. We can all be thankful for that! J It really does not matter where you are in the process; all that is important at this point is you are learning and adjusting as you walk things out for yourself. I, for one, believe that I have separated the best from the worse of my parents influence and impartation. However, much of whom I am today, without a doubt, came from my mother’s love for her firstborn son.
One of the greatest things that my mother imparted to me is the sincere desire to help people discover the best in themselves, while gently nudging them in the right direction. She was a great inspiration to me when it comes to life, talent and loving people; but the greatest thing that she ever imparted to me was loving people for who they are. She loved everybody the same, and tried to help them discover their innate abilities, and thereby lay hold of their purpose for living. She also, fashioned her love and care around the individual needs of the person, and did not give up on anyone to my knowledge.
Years after I left home, the maids (Nannies) that raised me and my siblings were still in my mother’s life at some level. By that time, they had introduced their children, and kept in touch with her down through the years. My mother outlived some of the people that her life touched, and though she is no longer with us in person, a part of her is living on in the way we live, love and communicate with others.
As I write this piece, I am reminded that Mother’s day is just around the corner, and my tribute to her in this article may serve to further her cause. Her cause lives on in me today because it truly represented the Father’s love expressed through a mother’s heart. She was a wonderful example of love and endurance beyond anything or anybody that I have encountered in life, and she was one of the greatest people that I have ever known. Thanks be to Yahweh for loving mothers.
My only regret is that it has taken me so long to really see it. L
(To Be Continued)